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TagTheSponsor: The Brightest Shining Beacon of Rape Culture

TagTheSponsor is a website that follows the slimy concept and tactics of TheDirty. TheDirty is a website devoted to shaming and ridiculing regular people (well, women really) under the guise of keeping people accountable. TagTheSponsor is more about policing the lives of strangers, notably, beautiful women on Instagram. While their tactics may come off as pure misogyny, the process is a bit more complicated. They function more like a revenge porn site.ha Here women, who are accused of being ‘professional companions’, are shamed for associating with Middle Eastern socialites and basketball players.

“These men kinda seem like broke haters.” – MrsJeremyMeeks

Yes, you read it right, the wholesale misogyny, shaming and harassment of supposed sex workers on Instagram isn’t even about women. TagTheSponsor is throwing these women under the bus to serve a seemingly racist proxy penis measuring contest between themselves and the moneyed Black and Muslim men who hoard the resources they feel are ‘theirs’. Or as Philosothot puts it…

“This is just hateful. I suppose it’s easier to go after the girls than the men who pay them.” – Philosothot

TagTheSponsor’s apparent game is tagging the #sponsor. So I will play along. TagTheSponsor’s sponsor is former porn star and energy drink mogul Jay Grdina.

And here’s the actual process of the site in a very fresh tweet…

It’s terrifying to witness men collaborating to victimize women. TagTheSponsor tweeted, a few days later, a video of a woman defecating into a plate. This video was obtained using the exact same tactic as all the content on their website. Someone pretends to be rich, feigns a desire for discretion, offers the women an arbitrary but substantial amount of money for travelling to Dubai and providing sex and companionship. This fraudulent premise is the basis for talking women out of as many intimate photos as possible and getting them to consent to as many sex acts as possible. The shaming of these women is then outsourced to strangers by releasing the photos on the website, Twitter and Instagram. The fans of TagTheSponsor are seemingly oblivious to the incredibly predatory nature of this. To them, it is much more shameful to wake up one day and have your life intruded upon by a con man, than it is to pull a premeditated con job on someone.

None of this is specifically surprising. It’s simply a demonstration of the difference between manhood and toxic masculinity. While an adult man may celebrate manhood in an independent manner and for its own sake, a subscriber to toxic masculinity must violate other men and women’s consent to demonstrate their masculinity. This behaviour happens within well-defined mediocracies ruled by the worst or loudest. Masculinity is emotionally expensive for everyone. If you are defined in such a superficial way (as a masculine man, the opposite of a feminine woman), you will find yourself having to defend your masculinity all the time. Men and women react differently in this kind of community. For instance, when toxic males attack a certain group of women, let’s say ‘whores’, community women will protect themselves by pointing the finger to ‘That Ho Over There’. People are just… people reacting to other people. They don’t necessarily have obvious or immediate power over where they get stuck in life.


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  1. Larry El CEO

    Great read, you’ve really got a lot of talent. Would you be interested in some work in Dubai? It’s nothing you couldn’t handle, just some hummus related business.

    • Miss Eva Vavoom

      I haven’t worked for Dubai or UAE corporations since the 90s. Managing corporate databases and informations systems in Arabic is a fucking pain in the ass ๐Ÿ™‚ So, no I am not really interested in your offer of pain in the ass.

  2. Aaron

    Dumb. Stupid. Author knows nothing

    • anonymous

      You shouldn’t answer these people, they are all fake people. It is harrassment, not a public service or education.

      • Miss Eva Vavoom

        I AM using a moniker on the internet… and so are you TSK TSK. My article only talks about ‘in plain sight’ aspect of TagTheSponsor. I know they obfuscate but what is interesting is that they only public networks that log their identifying information. That’s an #OPSEC failure but it doesn’t matter if offending behaviour is actual content of site ‘in plain sight’.

  3. justintime2012

    Fuck man, you are way too nice to these asholes!

  4. arsenalftw

    “mediocracies ruled by the worst or loudest”

    Makes me want to punch a wall as it is a perfect description of the world I am stuck in. Please write about this instead.

    • Miss Eva Vavoom

      Arsenalftw, I am sorry to read you are stuck in such a system. My most immediate suggestion is to evaluate the cost of removing yourself from such a situation. If it is dangerous or if it would make it impossible for you to fend for yourself, then, a multi-part strategy is in order. Remember that, generally speaking, toxicity and dehumanization that is enforced in a group, doesn’t necessarily exist outside of said group. I have some interviews and articles about this lined up. Be well.

  5. Victoria

    I’m sorry, I don’t agree. I am an educated mother of one who follows Tag The Sponsor, and I don’t feel victimized at all as a woman, or as a feminist, by doing so. I want to add they’ve featured men who agreed to engage in sex for money, but will claim they would do no such thing to the world.
    I have no problem with prostitution. I don’t believe it’s anything to be ashamed of, to work as one. And of course I believe in people’s right to privacy. But if you choose to make yourself visible (like on Instagram), and post photos of expensive items and claim you bought them with “modeling” checks, when you do this, forget the adult women who see you and feel badly about their own lives; teenagers see it. “Oh I can just be a model, and I can have a Bentley”, they think. NO. You will have to work VERY hard, in any industry, to be able to afford that car. You will not be able to go on lavish vacations all the time. These women give young girls unrealistic expectations of how money is made, and how hard one needs to work to achieve.
    Just my opinion, of course.

    • Miss Eva Vavoom

      As a sex educator, I have to come up with age appropriate material for 16 year-olds that kind-of pretends they don’t have instant 24/7 access to the worst hardcore porn. It’s incredibly annoying but it’s the only way to get back to basics and talk about all the topics you outline in your comment without using material that will be detrimental to the emotional health of young men. I think TTS’s method are horrendously unethical. Which is an opinion I am allowed to hold. At no time in my article do I say that such venues should not exist. I too wish to educate young people to be judicious about the media they consume. To be critical of what they read online. If you are going to keep harping on the educational aspect of the site… Please address the appropriateness of the content or the ethics of the method. Because all you women who write about this are naturally inclined to do it in a manner that is insightful and also useful, and not gross.

  6. Julia

    So these women objectify themselves on social media and lie about their income and what funds their lifestyles under the guise of striving for your dreams when they actually sell their bodies to become toilets of rich perverted men and TagtheSponsor is the ones in the wrong for bringing this hypocrisy to light? They’re not against prostitution they’re against lying about how these women fund their lifestyles and presenting themselves as above others like prostitutes.

    TagtheSponsor is trying to get them to own up to the truth rather than be shameful of it. The women are the problems as their perpetuating that sex work is shameful and those who do the work are lesser people and their continuing objectification with their “model” shots selling them as one valuable for their looks and selling their bodies for use as literal objects (toilets)

    • Miss Eva Vavoom

      We do not actually know if women are selling themselves as toilets. The process described on TTS uses this premise repeatedly in the name of exploring fetishes and kink. Scatological tendencies have proven to be super rare in kink circles and mostly discouraged at big conventions. However, non-kinky people are obsessed with ascribing this practice to kinksters. I am not saying the main contributor to the site cannot be into scap play. I am not saying women who get paid for sex don’t have to go through a myriad of weird party tricks to entertain jaded billionaires… What I am saying is that using misrepresentation to oppose misrepresentation goes POOF!

      • philomenacunt

        Oh fuck yeah. Jaded. jaded if poor too. Guys broken.

        • Miss Eva Vavoom

          Actually, guys are as awesome as they have always been. At least it’s always been my experience. It’s the pool of bottom-of-the-barrel losers that has gotten bigger. Or at least they have more room to operate and tools to scale up abusive behaviours. So it is not as big but it is more visible. Historically, I have been more interested in how men abuse other men. Because boys are artificially separated from girls at a young age and therefore only have groups of guys to rely on. And they have zero tools to manage their dehumanization inside toxic groups of same-sex peers.

  7. jamsjj75

    Trynna understand why tweeps be nagged by this. Totally no able to see conflict when using lyes to prove lies. Yes tag The Sponsor be repetitive gross invason of pryvaci. But why women be mad. Liek hoes be getting all the attentoin.

  8. philomenacunt

    Hardcore. What you write is frightening. Like I don’t mean tha in the bad way, just that people are so used to giving hos no respect I have never read articles that are nice to us. Well, not nice but not mean-spirited. Like I get TagTheSponsor but they are meanspirited and hypocrites for using lies to expose lies. Hos be super obvious on Instagram.

    • Miss Eva Vavoom

      OMG, I love your handle! I get the ‘frightening’ thing all the time.

      • philomenacunt

        ..toxic masculinity must violate other men and womenโ€™s consent to demonstrate their masculinity.

        This was the part I was talking about tho. It made me mad because… well all the time it is done to me/girls, I see it but it doesn’t register as violation. Like it’s expected. It’s really awful but u can’t complain.

  9. anonymous

    Hey Most The Most Sexually Satisfied Woman in The World, Why the did these assholes dox you? Like complain about you saying “rape” culture and “toxic” masculinity again and again and again and doing a rapey and toxic thing. That statement boggles my mind more though. Like how can you be? or know?

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