This video is clear and to-the-point.

Slut shaming has got to go. I encounter some strange reactions when people find out that I am happily non-monogamous and have more than one partner. For me that means that it is a lot of work to manage 3-5 relationships at a time (scheduling!) but I have gotten better at it in the past 8 years. Because some people have a weird love/hate/shame relationship with sex they feel the need to distance themselves from anyone who has a life that is different from their own, especially if they embrace the default zero sum relationship game. That causes some people to respond in a ‘that’s bad (morally)’ and then, as if the previous moment never happened, come the onslaught of sexually specific questions complete with explicit assumptions! Through these questions about my sex life I get to know what kind of sex people are afraid of, interested in and curious about. I don’t mind respectful question but I don’t necessarily answer them. It’s none of anybody’s business and nobody needs to justify their sexual choices. Still, I try to maintain a certain amount of discretion about my specific life with each partner for the sake of their privacy not mine.

What I can tell young people though is that when people react in a shaming way about someone else’s sexuality it is simply because they are insecure, ignorant and scared of sex and this is based in their own shame. Dealing with someone who is afraid of sexuality or has sexual shame is not really worth it.

Sexual shaming is a great way for someone to remove themselves from ever being considered a friend or a lover of mine.